Simply Being A Male puts you at a Disadvantage when Battling
Here are some key points about how being male sets us up to struggle
with this addiction.
1. The Chemicals in our brain are utilized in the pornography industry
to draw us towards their product.
Male and Female brains are chemically wired different, in
particular when it comes to arousal. Men are more visual creatures and
can draw sexual gratification through our eyes. We are turned on by
sexual nudity Read more [...]
Jeff is a quiet and contemplative 28 year old male, recently married
with no children.
During our initial meeting Jeff easily disclosed his personal life,
providing a wealth of background information regarding his education
Jeff works as an accountant with a moderate size firm and shared openly
his desire of making partner within a short time frame. Further
disclosure indicated that Jeff had served a Mormon mission overseas in
Southeast Asia where he had acquired a taste Read more [...]
In a recent book I have been reading called, "Change your Questions, Change your Life"
by: Wendy Watson Nelson, she discusses the influential power of
questions in our lives.
Building from an earlier article I have written on core beliefs, I
wanted to share some insights I gleaned from this book and adapt them
to the fight against pornography addiction.
She states, "we" see things as "we" really are.
In other words the state of our physical, psychological, and spiritual
self, influence Read more [...]
There have been many times over the years in my treatment of
pornography addiction, that clients have looked at me almost cross-eyed
when I say to them: "It's Not about the Naked People!
Their focus up until that point has been on the "Naked" people and they
base their sense of progress simply on whether I look at pornography or
Of course my challenge to all my clients is to look beyond the scope of
the naked people and see what is behind THEIR desire to maintain their
I Read more [...]